when love simon came out white gays got hella loud-which is fine because it was a coming of age movie about a closeted gay kid. but it’s been real quiet since the announcement of rafiki, which is not only a film about two kenyan girls but the first kenyan film to go to sundance
on top of that despite the best efforts of the director to appeal to the kenya’s film and classification board the film was banned in kenya on the grounds that it “attempts to legitimize lesbianism”. since that put the film in the spotlight it seems like this should have shown up on some radars and spawned a few “support rafiki” posts yet they’ve been very few and far between
the most succinct explanation of why some lesbians use they/them or he/him pronouns is that pronouns are very much like names, in that they are culturally established signifiers we use to refer to someone else, and almost always those signifiers are gendered.
You’ll see a lot of lesbians start to go by androgynous or masculine names (or nicknames) to feel more comfortable. Sam, Pat, Chris, Jay, Moe, etc. are all really common chosen names among lesbians for that reason.
I also knew an older butch– my parents’ age– who went by Otter (& her femme partner went by Kitty) because they decided to just depart from standard names entirely– and I see younger lesbians using neo-pronouns in very similar ways for very similar reasons.
A lesbian who was raised with the name Christina and the pronouns she/her/hers deciding he’s more comfortable with the name Chris and he/him/his pronouns to reflect his complex relationship to womanhood is not a huge confusing leap, it’s pretty normal depending on what circles you’re in.
Gender is complex, and gender nonconforming lesbians, butches, and femmes have often navigated gender on their own terms to find ways of being comfortable in their bodies, relationships, and lives.
i can’t bear to face all the actually awful realities of this so i’m just gonna be wildly petty and say that this country isn’t ready for a supreme court justice named brett
i would rather rip my own fingernails off than even entertain the thought of dating or talking to somebody in the military or interested in joining the military
“But the 8-hour workday is too profitable for big business, not because of the amount of work people get done in eight hours (the average office worker gets less than three hours of actual work done in 8 hours) but because it makes for such a purchase-happy public. Keeping free time scarce means people pay a lot more for convenience, gratification, and any other relief they can buy. It keeps them watching television, and its commercials. It keeps them unambitious outside of work. We’ve been led into a culture that has been engineered to leave us tired, hungry for indulgence, willing to pay a lot for convenience and entertainment, and most importantly, vaguely dissatisfied with our lives so that we continue wanting things we don’t have. We buy so much because it always seems like something is still missing.”
“Damon didn’t like me because I became friends with his friend Graham. For ten years, we dislike each other. Then we discovered we had things in common. We were born in 1968, under the sign of the monkey. Hence, the name of the band. I had proposed Chimpanzees, but Damon said no, Gorillas. I asked him why and he told me: “because they’re bigger”. Then we added a z. Because it’s hiphop! At the time, we shared the same apartment in London.
We were 30. We had just broke up with our respective girlfriends, we were young, unattached and, most often, drunk and broken. One night we hosted a party at home with three Spice Girls, Marianne Faithfull, two guys from Radiohead and Kate Moss. Gorillaz was born from this period of chaos.”
This comment goes. Lol, no idea what this means. But fuck it, right? No? Ok. More cigs plz. But for real, this girl is awesome, so jealous of her multiple men that she’s with. I’d probably like, quit my job tbh
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Lol. Win. This girl is the best, I’d blow all of my little cash fund to see her, but. Fuck life